Saturday, June 15, 2019

Stepping stone for Success

Hi friends.....its happy to reach you all through this new blog.We often find people frustrated on life or our own selfs may came across such parts at times.In this blog I have tried to share something that may be useful for us while dealing with hard phases of life.Have a happy reading.









I would like to start with a nice answer of Elon Musk ,"I expect to fail"(Elon Musk , a scientist entrepreneur, founder of paypal,one of the top rich and influential persons in the world,presently trying to do shuttle service to mars-spaceX) when an interviewer asked him " Sir,even NASA is still not successful in shuttle service to mars,but why don't you fear to get a failure in your attempt on that".He continues that,"At times, it is important to do some thing that seems essential for us in life, immaterial of its results".One could grab the point behind his answer as"At some point our actions and decisions should be apart from success or failure but it may be a thing that adds on some meaning to our living".

Though the above case is a good sample for motivation,not all the failures are considered good.We could draw a separating line between the tow possible kinds of failure with the impact it creates on the thoughts of the person who undergoes that.In simpler terms,if a failure makes one to think that his-own-self as good for nothing or his life was completely done with that failure,then those failure are considered bad ones.

Let me try to present something in points that may help out to set things right even in case of a failure.

Knowing the target better gives the complete plan to recover.Just not throwing an arrow at every possible application, but having a better understanding of what we are going to try,the impacts in case of a win or a loss,the stuffs we need to invest for that and a plan to regain in case of a loss.

Try changing a failure as a data point seems a bit more interesting.Once Edison discovered electric bulb after a large number of tries he conveyed not that "He failed in his previous tries" but that "He discovered one could not make an electric bulb in that much possible ways".Try recording the failure and not to fail in the same way again may be a better version of previous example.

Developing on flaws seems something that could help in case of creative things or processes .Let things be done,the flaws be occurred and so  they could help developing a better version of the same, because ...in case of creative stuffs,we are not supposed to do some existing tasks.This means we are trying to do something that is new . So,in this case it seems better not to waste time on over thinking but to let the experiment be done first and corrected further to get a faster growth. 

Measured failure is just being aware of where could we be left in case of a failure,how much money and fame we may loss due to that.Getting a preview about the losses that may occur may give either a better insight to make a better decision or at-least makes the recovery easier.

Quick failure,Sometimes it is better not to fear doing something and getting failed at a younger age because one could find more time to experiment and grow further in life.....because at times, failure that occurs during the middle of phases of life may leave more aggressive impact than the ones at earlier days.
I have tried to present stuffs in a shorter and clearer form.I hope this blog may be useful for some of us.Thanks for reading.

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Sunday, June 9, 2019

Handling negative people

Hi friends...I'm happy to reach you all with this new blog.We all face different types of people in our day to day life.I tried to express my views and learnings in handling negative people.I hope this blog would be useful for some of us.Have a happy reading.

The reason behind the negativity of a person is not exactly that  they hate us but may be their bitter past experiences and their concern about us.Whenever a person conveys something negative it is good to ask our own self a few questions.Firstly "Have I thought about this negative thing earlier?"..if the answer is "yes",then we might have taken our decision even after considering that negative aspect and the difficulties.So no need of worrying about the same negative aspect over and over again.Say them that "I have already clearly analysed in that perspective.I know these difficulties exist but I still want to do the same because of some reason...thanks for your inputs".If the answer is "No" then we should consider their point,think in that perspective and re-analyze our decision.Say them that "I haven't thought about this thing earlier.I will re-analyze my decision and thanks for your inputs".Just because someone is saying something negative to us it doesn't means that they are our enemy.Sometimes people may convey things due to their care about our goodness.
Apart from negative people there is another category called "Toxic people".It is good to identify this kind of people as early as people.Let me try to present a few points to find such ones. First of all, just  have a thought about "Did they tell us a negative thing due to their care for our goodness or due to their haterade on our growth...".













Secondly "Why do they care? How does this thing affect them?"At sometimes our actions and decisions may affect others more than us.So in the second case the people are not negative or toxic but they are defensive and protective.They are saying a negative thing just to remind us that our actions affects them.It mostly occurs in intimate relationships like parents, partner,siblings or our children .So in this case it is good to consider their point genuinely and take care to reduce the aggressive impact of our decisions on them.
Finally...just think about the past actions of that particular negative person.If all the previous actions of that person is with an intention to stop our progress or  just to create a stress,then obviously in this time too there is a maximum possibility that they were approaching for the same kind of degrading  reason.These people are "The toxic ones". Once after identifying this kind of people trying to eliminate them from our life may be a better decision.We could try to avoid meeting them and it is good stay away from them in all possible ways because these people drain our energy.

I have tried to express my views in a more generalized way and as short as possible.Thanks for reading this blog.

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