Handling negative people

Hi friends...I'm happy to reach you all with this new blog.We all face different types of people in our day to day life.I tried to express my views and learnings in handling negative people.I hope this blog would be useful for some of us.Have a happy reading.

The reason behind the negativity of a person is not exactly that  they hate us but may be their bitter past experiences and their concern about us.Whenever a person conveys something negative it is good to ask our own self a few questions.Firstly "Have I thought about this negative thing earlier?"..if the answer is "yes",then we might have taken our decision even after considering that negative aspect and the difficulties.So no need of worrying about the same negative aspect over and over again.Say them that "I have already clearly analysed in that perspective.I know these difficulties exist but I still want to do the same because of some reason...thanks for your inputs".If the answer is "No" then we should consider their point,think in that perspective and re-analyze our decision.Say them that "I haven't thought about this thing earlier.I will re-analyze my decision and thanks for your inputs".Just because someone is saying something negative to us it doesn't means that they are our enemy.Sometimes people may convey things due to their care about our goodness.

Apart from negative people there is another category called "Toxic people".It is good to identify this kind of people as early as people.Let me try to present a few points to find such ones. First of all, just  have a thought about "Did they tell us a negative thing due to their care for our goodness or due to their haterade on our growth...".

Secondly "Why do they care? How does this thing affect them?"At sometimes our actions and decisions may affect others more than us.So in the second case the people are not negative or toxic but they are defensive and protective.They are saying a negative thing just to remind us that our actions affects them.It mostly occurs in intimate relationships like parents, partner,siblings or our children .So in this case it is good to consider their point genuinely and take care to reduce the aggressive impact of our decisions on them.

Finally...just think about the past actions of that particular negative person.If all the previous actions of that person is with an intention to stop our progress or  just to create a stress,then obviously in this time too there is a maximum possibility that they were approaching for the same kind of degrading  reason.These people are "The toxic ones". Once after identifying this kind of people trying to eliminate them from our life may be a better decision.We could try to avoid meeting them and it is good stay away from them in all possible ways because these people drain our energy.

I have tried to express my views in a more generalized way and as short as possible.Thanks for reading this blog.

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